My best response to “hate mail” -from a woman conceived in rape.

“You sick twisted b@&#!…”– I should have stopped reading as soon as I absorbed these first four words. What I continued to read, kept me up for hours.  “Why continue reading it?” you may ask.  I wanted to make sure that I was not receiving an actual real threat against myself or my family.  The awful, hate-filled, vile-soaked words felt like vomit on me, and filled me with horror.  The classic ending I have heard before, was there as well: “Your mother should have killed you.”

This type of hate is foreign to me.  Sure, I have been angry before, but never have I felt the need to degrade another human being–a stranger at that! When I receive ugly emails, blog comments or posts on my Facebook page, I pray for these people. I want God to fill their hearts with peace.  I pray they may feel the love of God.  Maybe they have never known peace, joy or love.  What kind of households did they grow up in? Were they taught to spew evil?  I am sad for them.


I had to report one person on Facebook because he explained what he would do to women on an abortion table!  Others just go on and on calling me hateful names.  “But, my name is Mary!” I want to shout. My name is beautiful!  My name is “loved, happy and glad-to-be-alive!!!”  It doesn’t matter how many times you call me bad names–they are not mine! I will not accept them, or believe them, they are lies.  To the authors of such vileness, I say, your name is “sad, angry and needs-to-be-loved.”  I pray someone will cross your path that will open your heart to love, blessing and forgiveness through our Lord Jesus Christ.

From now on, I will stick to the “hate mail plan” I set up after I received media attention last December for speaking out against tax-payer funding for abortion in cases of rape/incest at the Michigan state capital.  I will not open these messages and read the lies, but will forward them on to a trusted, Pro-Life adviser who will screen them for actual threats.  I will only accept positive feedback on my personal blog page. I read enough negative, pro-choice debate on other sites.  My blog was not created to engage debate, but rather to tell the world that I am Mary; I am wanted and blessed, and like me, all babies conceived in rape are not an ugly reminder of a tragic event. We are beautiful, loved, happy, blessed, and glad-to-be-alive!

Edited by Shawn Spry


11 thoughts on “My best response to “hate mail” -from a woman conceived in rape.”

  1. We are proud of you! We will stand for life! Your birth mother had nothing but love for all God’s children. I know, I was there for part of her life. Uncle Joe

  2. Love you, Mary! Your words, attitude and commitment are INSPIRING! Hugs and love from Chicago! Wendy Sable

  3. Mary you are such a beautiful testiment to GODS bigger picture! you brought tears to my eyes and made my heart sing! Keep doing what you are doing and know you have so many people behind you even from a far! Love you!

  4. Mary, you are an amazing witness to the Father’s redemptive work of Grace and Truth in Jesus Christ. May the Lord continue to embolden and strengthen you through the empowering presence of the Holy Spirit!

  5. It breaks my heart that some are so ugly inside that they spew on others. You have a very healthy few and beautiful prayer for those who act poorly… I too try to remember that I do not know what happened to them in life for them to see their brothers and sisters in such an ugly light. God bless you for sharing your love!

  6. My son was conceived from a rape when I was 16. I love him with all my heart and even though it was a horrible situation I look at my son and know everything will be okay. You’re strong and beautiful. I’m proud of you.

    1. Thank you for your reply. Do you have any interest in being a part of the Save the 1 group? Check out we have members who are not listed as speakers but are on a private data base. Rebecca Kiessling is the main contact. I could get you her information if your interested. God Bless, Mary

  7. Mary, your story and your heart has touched me and so many others! In 1978 I got a very ungodly woman with 2 children pregnant and although I was raised a Christian, I took her to an abortion clinic in Lubbock, Texas. I KNEW this woman had too many partners and that she would never love me, but just as we started to go in the clinic, she started crying and said, “if this ‘thing’ wasn’t alive why would we be killing it?” WOW, that was God speaking through her!!! I started the car up and drove her home and we were married that next week and 2 months later she miscarried. I had already learned to love her two young boys and in 1980 we had a beautiful little girl that won many track and academic awards and in her Junior year she won “Miss Texas American Teen” Her Mom and I divorced after 18 miserable years, but I thank God I have 3 loving children and it has caused Jesus Christ to be FIRST in my life!! Our Daughter and the oldest step-son are strong Christians and at least the middle step-son is very much Pro-life! (I am a slow learner and it was only 3 years ago I finally became convinced that ALL, even victims of rape should LIVE!!)

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s